by Julia Sneden
It’s almost summer,
that season of family vacations and rich contact between grandparents
and grandchildren. Those of us who live far from our grown children’s
families bless the airlines, the trains, the highways that make
it possible for us to meet again, whether at the beach, in the
mountains, at a resort, or in our own backyards.
Herewith,
a list of suggestions for those who find themselves racking their
brains to remember the kinds of things children like to do. Having
taught kindergarten for twenty-five years, I tend toward direct,
interactive activities. These days, children get plenty of television,
movies, and computer games at home! (But perhaps you should have
a bit of technology on hand, just in case you need a break).
SOME
GENERAL PRINCIPLES
Nearly all children need exposure to life
skills. Our grandchildren have sat in front of screens (computer,
TV, movie) with their hands in their laps for too long. Any activity
that actively engages the mind and eye and hands is good, but
an activity that furthers the well-being of the whole family is
best, because it becomes a source of great pride to the child.
They are often surprised to discover that they can contribute
to the family in useful ways. Don’t be afraid to ask them to help
around the house!
Do scope
out the local offerings for good adventures. Bike trails, hiking
trails, museums (short visits for the very young), short-session
craft classes, libraries, miniature golf courses, live theatre,
sports events, etc. are all useful for diversity in the daily
plan. You don’t want to spend all day, every day at home or on
the beach.
At the same
time, you don’t want to overdo it. Allow for down-time. Just sitting
around and listening to a child, or reading together for a short
period, or lying on the floor and listening to music, can be restorative
to both grandparent and grandchild.
MATERIALS
TO HAVE ON HAND
Crayons, colored pencils and markers; paper
of various kinds; scissors (blunt-tipped for the small fry); scotch
tape; stapler; water-soluble glue like Elmer’s; a ruler; an art
gum eraser; white and colored chalk. My great aunt Martha always
kept a “fun bin” for us children. It was just an old box filled
with odds and ends like tubes from toilet paper or paper towels,
bits of yarn, scraps of fabric, small boxes, bottle caps (they
make great wheels!), etc. These days, I keep two drawers of an
old chest filled with the same sorts of things, only now I add
plastic containers, berry baskets, cardboard, scraps of Contac
paper, etc. My granddaughters are allowed to use anything from
those drawers to make whatever they want.
We have found
that we need a rule or two, however.
Rule #1 is that at the end of the vacation, they may each take just one of their creations home.
Rule
#2
is
that it has to be something that will fit in the luggage, so that
they aren’t struggling with carry-on bags. They then have the
choice of leaving their creations here, or dismantling them and
putting the makings back in the drawer to be used next time.
For older children, if you have the space,
sports equipment for things like badminton and ping-pong can provide
a special treat.
Under Age Two
For the Two to Five Set
You've got your assignments. Next time, Julia will take you from age six on up to fourteen and beyond.